Men face subtle psychological marriage

In a number of marriage and marriage, young men share of emotions, from his marriage started downhill ever since. He trembled nervously, showing anxiety and loss, and therefore a strong desire to escape reality.

Be told to do the groom's boy, new fear before marriage is normal, there must be mentally prepared to make efforts to overcome it. Family and friends will make his mind a vague ideological activities, can lead to psychological explanation of his guilt, such as: "What are you afraid of approaching women and obligations." "You do not want to stir up life's burden." "You do not want to give up your personal freedom." "What are you immaturity." and so on. Then they will comfort him that you will overcome the psychological fear and confusion, and we will overcome in the process of slowly mature.

That leads to guilt the words "fear" is often used to explain the man's conflict and negative emotions. It is as if the side flags, or the call of battle, the men succeeded in inspiring courage to accept the severe challenges to overcome difficulties, to show their fortitude. So he suppressed his true feelings hidden demand. Since then, when he sought to overcome the psychological fear and conflict caused by the strong reaction, he not only found nothing, but left for the marriage breakdown risks. When the marriage verge of collapse, in fact, to the point of irreversible, these pent-up resentment, will open as the floods washed the general feelings of the gate. Only then did he recall the old feelings, aware of their produce was the real cause of resentment. But before that, he spent most of the repressed energy to overcome their dissatisfaction and to the rationalization of the above.

As he set his wedding day, regardless of inner feelings, like the call, in order to maintain the marriage, he still continued to ignore their true feelings. When he was upset, he would fight back in the past, let the matter rest. When he is not sexual desire, he may be anxious, began to doubt their own sexual function is normal, while trying to overcome their "few desires." Sometimes do not want to go home after work, but the husband's responsibility to do, had to reluctantly go back home even after the heart is full of unhappiness, spiritual malaise, quiet. During the day, even if he filled or not, have to call his wife from the office, because he felt his wife have this requirement. Weekend, he had to cook to cook, run errands odd jobs, patching, and then sitting in front of the TV completely passive, hard to play a competent husband and father. When he and his wife a couple of other contacts, he is again playing host or liked hospitality guests, but in fact he had no appetite.

So many of his acts are against it, just to satisfy him overcome the negative cultural decoration negative emotional needs, which makes marriage inevitably become a heavy burden, so that the final break. Only then did he let embarked on long-suppressed anger out. However, before that, he always preferred self-hatred, self-defamation, hate he did not achieve the intended purpose, cowardly, incompetent, or not as he imagined it, with his wife to get along better. Therefore, some self-denigrate it, such as: "You are a selfish guy!" Or "you do not know how to love!" And the various accusations in this regard, as many hearts filled with nails, he was firmly nailed to the marriage the cross.

Married men began the inner resistance is not naive and irresponsible, but a good heart impulse. This young people is undoubtedly true, but men over 20 years of age were the parents urged the marriage of the male of our social life is really a great tragedy - his emotion is far from being fully developed prime of degree hurry However, occupational and ideological education has not been enough, nor access to more reliable financial footing. Early marriage will suppress the emotional and financial burden of pressure to his head, bound his hands and feet, make him into a mere subsistence way of life only, the physical and mental health have been destroyed.

The early state of mind from the male point of view, their marriage did not seem very good fundamentals, so that they get tremendous satisfaction. In fact, the psychological condition of early man to achieve a happy marriage, is almost impossible. For the boy, asked him to wealthy and enterprising young age to create, challenge, struggle, and explore spirit. The girl is from the doll, over the game like every family to be happy and lessons learned. In general, men rarely participate in such activities. Between the sexes regardless of differences in these early psychological condition is good or bad, after all, they reflect the actual situation of men and marriage psychology.

Accurately, precisely because of these psychological conditions between the sexes differences, men often feel that marriage plays a mature role of powerless. He often meet the situation, to reach the top of the purposes of work, but with far cry from his early education suffered. Had to change their pace of life inherent in forcing themselves into another person. The results, he were being oppressed, being looted. In the eyes of others, but has always been seen as a standard man. People often hear women complain about their oppression in marriage is a party, which is obviously not entirely correct. No doubt she was bound by marriage, but men's hearts more vulnerable to trauma, because men are emotionally prepared for marriage is also a lack of adequate and easier to deny and suppress their own personality. In efforts to maintain the kind of marital relations, his true self with more and more alienated.