Healthy state of mind, be a happy man

Life will not be plain sailing, only the fairy tale of the princess and the prince to enjoy eternal happiness. Real life is always full of challenges, fun and sorrow, like singing the song: "The outside world is very exciting, the outside world is helpless." For men, life is sometimes more complicated.

Society for men to set a required course is "a success", now being called "the benefits." But whether it is "success" or "benefit" not so good "out." Thus, we often see many men exhausted, almost unscrupulously to look for opportunities, like a man would have no status at all, only hard to "win" before they can have almost deprived of accommodation, with the same good innate biological characteristics of women compared to men , too hard! in the emotional, men have a lifetime in practice a "convergence" of Kung Fu: tears can not flow, even the old saying says "Men do not cry easily"; have suffered can not appeal, or they would be blamed "weak." It has been said that the role of social provisions and the provisions of the biological role of the "conspiracy" tossing the men, so men's average life expectancy significantly lower than the woman. This view although some extreme, but not unreasonable.

However, no matter how many men were "difficult", the number of "hard" life or to continue with courage to face life's challenges, efforts to adapt and adjust their emotions, are the men should do.

Angry is that we often encounter in life circumstances, even "mad me," is a common spoken language. Whether in the company and the owner disputes, or in the home was "unreasonable," the wife put speechless, the men usually sat alone in the corner sulking. Frustration and loss that is difficult to use language, in fact, where there are so many gas carefully what? American sociologists have in a book entitled "Anger, much misunderstood emotion," the book said: "The anger and not an innate emotion and behavior, but learned. people angry not angry, is their own decision. "In other words, people's anger is its own control. This is why for the same thing, some people were angry rage, but some people feel comfortable, did not mind. So, as long as you understand yourself and your anger is to make life difficult for self-abuse, you naturally do not often allow themselves to "mad", unless you angry as is the spice of life.

In order not to get angry, in fact, very easy to listen to the experts, pointing right.

First of all, to adjust their thinking, to remind ourselves not as think anything is good and bad sides to think of a good side of. Also, try to make their stay angry. If you get a direct response to what is anger, give it a try, after 15 seconds delay, then the way you always break out. The next 30 seconds delay, been on the increase this time, once you see that I can stay angry, you have learned to control. Delay is the control, more exercise, and finally be able to completely eliminate.

Secondly, angry remind ourselves that everyone has the right to become the way he wanted to be, you ask others to do so, just to find gas under its own. Also, when angry, close to the people you love, where they find "love" to go in and your hostility. There is also a most stupid way is to do an "angry Diary", a note of anger in the exact time, place and things, all the angry behavior. You will soon find, if often angry, just to remember "angry Diary" this trouble could force you less angry.

Modern life is stressful, pressure, and that people do not have much time to understand and communicate with each other, therefore, a kind of depression become more common in modern life, the bad emotions. Perhaps because of romance, perhaps because someone got a promotion and you do not, in either case, the mood will be plunged into a depression, even the usually most interested in things you can not arouse the enthusiasm, heart burdened be, and often have insomnia, loss of appetite, and even there the mood for pessimism and despair, loss of life of courage.

Elimination of depression is the most effective way to change their cognitive style, to increase the flexibility of thinking, to think objectively and not into a dead end. And a common training method is a "negative thinking" in the diary records, including: the date, scene, the mood at that time (note the depression, anxiety level, with 0 for no, 100 said that the strongest). To the "negative thinking" in time down to the next step to correct. In these "negative thinking" in the record, you should look at onlooker these things, you will find that you frequently depressed thinking: absolute thinking, that is always an extreme black way to assess their white. In fact, the life of many non-black non-white in between the fuzzy color, you are so pressed to his characterization of it?

Subjective judgments: in the absence of facts made arbitrarily on the basis of a negative conclusion. What must have factual evidence, the boss alone today than in the past to see your warm eyes, they come to the conclusion you are not satisfied boss is ridiculous. How do you know the boss is not for today, and his wife fight a bad mood so it?

Tell the whole story: capture details section, make negative judgments on the whole. Into depression out of context is the most direct and effective way. Things to consider fully, not to tightly grasp the point, unless you want to own "test of strength."

Personal: take the initiative to someone else's negligence, errors are to blame themselves for other people's misfortune and negligence liability. Sometimes "too conscientious" make themselves into a quandary. Not all your relevant screws up, it is your mistake. Reflect on their own right, but do not blame her too much, you can not even spare their own, this world you have your own means of survival?