Five parents and children decompression

One child decompression: call pleasant names

Home a pair of twin sons, first born son, I often called him "great treasure", while small, of course, "Andy", regardless of the morning to get up, or call us to eat, with nice pleasant voice called the name of the child pressure naturally small. Everyone knows that, when summoned by name even when the moment is the trouble, or suffer.

Family decompression of the two: using music to replace calls

The morning the children wake up in the music than in the mother yelling in the yell up, pressure is smaller. If good music before going to bed stressed, there is a happy day start. Timer is also a useful tool, who do not like to suddenly be interrupted, telling the child, another 5 minutes to shower, adjusted the timer, you do not have to bargain when, how long the child if his decision to play computer games, time that they would be easier to observe.

Family decompression three: time, quantity and quality are important

Now the world's concept is important than quantity and quality of parent-child time is the so-called quality time: do not care and how long a child together, and care about what to do with him.

Course, we can not at home all day, then give the child 10 minutes of quality time, they think he will meet. Quality time, when he excitedly school, where you listen to what he said cheerfully; quality time is when he came home feeling depressed, you were there to listen, comfort, encouragement. If you missed it, so we have time, asked him "How are you doing today?" He would say "okay."

Family decompression four: was listening, and often hug

One educator said 4 times a day, hug your children. I try to remind myself to concentrate on listening to children talking inches, but also look into their eyes. Often, the focus in this moment, their hearts filled with love, they will naturally hug them. Hugs, kisses, praise, encouragement, these never too much. When a child is heart filled with love tank, he will only reveal to love, and not as a disgruntled child.

The child, if the usual habit of not embrace, a pat on the shoulder can be gently squeezed his arm. The best way is to keep a few close, said to myself, I would like to continue to do, because it is not the case, suddenly, his son taller than I am, is not I hug him, hug him bending over my shoulder.

Family decompression five: let go

Fact, I learned the hardest and most useful way: let go! Let go!

Parents, we can only stay with them, observing their strengths, to encourage, support, his own aspirations aside, so both sides can enjoy each other's concern. I said to myself, definitely not in the child's homework, talent on the confused everyone Kuku and stir. Setbacks for each child playing, I say do not learn well, each time he would immediately say no, but also learn. As a child hour, I always say, eat not eat, but do not have a child to eat, we should worry about. Children's clever, you care about what matter, even if you do not say it, he can know. Then in that matter, and you go against the more you let go, the more he knows that is not a threat, only they learn responsibility. When children from the heart which has the power self-motivated, parents increasingly do not need to put pressure on the invisible into the.