The wedding night the bride do not want to "consummated"

Wedding supposed to be warm and happy. However, the indigenes, and Alan's wedding night was like a nightmare general.

That night, she refused to undress, let him touch her. At first, he thought the shy girl in trouble, they take the initiative to guide her, and she jokes, to relax the atmosphere, Unexpectedly, she began to cry. Addin a wet blanket, can not be helped.

This way, two days, her condition did not change in any way. Fourth day of the night, he would move an honest, and also despite her objections. She began to cry, and finally actually desperately grasping hands up. He fire was great, pulled light jumped out of bed. "What do you do!" He angrily cursed, "This is what kind of husband and wife?" She Huddled in Chuangjiao years, he kept crying, not talking.

Next morning, he said to her: "You should not want me too, on the go, I will not force you." Talking it out, and went to the factory to your life to work. Evening, he returned home, she had gone.

A few days later, her parents rushed to the scene. They all tell him -

In a dark rainy night, she walking in the road leading to the city, a Beijing Jeep had opened from her. Car suddenly stopped in front, and then turn around, drive back quickly, and by her side, "Ga - squeak" sound, stopped.

When she understood what happened, too late. She heard the car screams Heartbreakers ... ...

This sensational gang rape case, as a news, lively burst also passed. However, as a victim, things will not quite so simple. Tragic ankle jump, she lay in the hospital more than a month, have since long vacation at home for a few years off. She suffered serious physical and psychological devastation, for a 18-year-old girl who, unfortunately, large, MO this staggering!

A doctor suggested that: an environment for her to change it. In this way, she went to a relatives overseas. A turnaround, her mood seems to have become calm, less crying and laughing, so for a long time trance. She started it, and started to find some books, and also helped start the initiative to do housework. Sometimes she also go to the movies with relatives. Smile appeared on her face, people put on weight, pale face ruddy lot of attention.

Her 25 years of age this year, things have passed 7 years, and she already had the legal marriage age. "Let her find the object!" Have relatives proposal.

First object is brought home by the relatives came. This is a young men curly hair, dark complexion, angular, people are very strong, and very talkative. Turning happy, then they exultant, dancing, and she listened very interesting.

After lunch, the family have quietly avoided. She left the room, and his time quietly in the warm space of passage. This is a pleasant afternoon. Pro parted, she took him to the door, exchanged greetings. Everything is moving in a satisfactory direction.

Night, her mother pulled her into an empty room. "How do you think other people like?" "Very good ... ..." She suddenly paused the. Mother's eyes it all leaked. She understood how this is going on, launched into a flush face.

Mother said: "He has understood the situation at home, and people are very good. Here are a sister, and parents are at work, his work is quite good ... ..."

"What kind of work he is doing?" "He was driving." "Drive?!" "Yes ah," his mother said cheerfully, "This work can be admired, and income are also high ... ..."

Can be completely changed her face, lips blue, eyes that had emerged in alarming sluggish. This is the symptoms of a manic episode. Mother horrified: "how do you now?" She said: "Nothing." But the tears are streaming down her face uncontrollably. Driving, drivers, Beijing Jeep, roaring sound of a motor, the dark rainy night ... ... this is too scary a! "No! I do not! ... ..." She suddenly burst out crying hysterically.

This completely dropped. Later for her to identify the object, the driver became the first object of exclusion.

Later, family members identified her target now. The participation of his family, the wedding day was set. She has 27 years, things have gone 9 years. Married, have children, have a happy family, will slowly forget the past, she was still young, life will start again ... ...

If so it nice to ah! Who knows, the wedding night, became a nightmare for her to review the ... ...

Her past that he was shocked. He said: "Why do you deceive me ?!"

Old looked apologetically said: "We are not deliberately do this, we reason that the sole purpose of our poor daughter, and we do not want to hurt her. We hope that the past can be completely over. We are not so much deceiving others, as it is in deceiving yourself. you know, we only have this only daughter, how much we want her to happiness ... ... "she spoke, tears streaming actually two old, began to cry.

Finally, the two old said: "The matter has now, we do not oppose you want a divorce. We sincerely feel sorry for you, if there are ways to make up, we try to do it."

He was deeply moved. Before that, he thought they owed him the debt, but now he feels he owes them something. At that time, he thought, even for two old and can not abandon her. So he said to them: "You come back to her - oh no, I go with you to bring her back. I want to take her medical treatment, I think things will slowly get better ... ..."

[Psychoanalysis] This is a typical sex phobia, due to the formation of a sudden she was raped nine years ago, in her mind and body on the left a deep, painful, terrible blot, so that things in the past in 2089, the mention of the driver, an experience of living situation (married), there are still physical and psychological terror response. According to Pavlov's theory, which is the formation of a conditioned reflex.

Treatment of sexual disorders, psychological therapy must be based, and supported by appropriate behavioral therapy, in addition to sexual knowledge, sexual guidance. Although the cases of the problem lies with the woman, but the solution depends on the concerted efforts of both spouses, especially the husband's attitude is very important.

In accordance with the cognitive psychology point of view, disrupting the human spirit, so much the event as it is one of the event evaluation. External stimuli is one of perception and evaluation of the medium caused the overall physical and psychological reactions. 9 years ago, that scene has really real on the ground occurred, and, for her impression was too strong. Forget it, is unrealistic, therefore, may wish to re-understand the matter, straightened his mind, and heart as an objective reality face it, accept it. Since the physical, trauma can tear the hymen, so why not rape as a trauma it? That matter, it has no fault, they should not torture yourself, take it to treat the sexual life will be gradually terror symptoms weakened and eventually disappeared.